We are taught to search for value for everything and make sure to get our money's worth. Assessing how much we are willing to pay and the item's importance is how we know its value. We tend to put a value on people and ourselves in a similar way. There is a belief that a person's worth is based on status and wealth. Whilst we begin linking our value and worth on this one-dimensional measure. However, can this truly sustain a fulfilling life and a high sense of self-worth? Wealth and status do not equate to how content we are in life. These are only two of the other faulty and covert measures that humanity uses. A thought process based on lack and fear leads to judgment and self-criticism if these measures are not met.
However, only through God and yourself will you find contentment, self-worth, and value as shared in W. Veronica's book on finding your true value and identity. W. Veronica Lisare found that her life experiences, relationships, and assumptions are not identifiers of her worth and value. Now through her book, she will lead you to the same journey of discovery. Following Lisare's lead to unearthing your value and self-worth will be the best decision you will ever make. Value and self-worth are created internally, so it might seem complicated to quantify them. However, there will always be signs that you'll slowly see in yourself.
Perfection is Not Your Goal
The first sign you'll notice is that you no longer aspire for perfection. Striving for excellence is admirable but striving for perfection is impossible to achieve. This does not mean you don't believe in yourself; rather, you have become aware that you are not flawless and that perfection doesn't exist. Essential happiness is not found in perfection. The need to become the most beautiful person the media portrays is no longer a predisposition. Instead, you begin loving your flaws and accept yourself as who you are. You become living and a being who can still make poor decisions. There is room for improvement, but it is not the foremost important thing for you.
No Desire for Approval
The fact that you no longer desire to change for the sake of someone else's approval is a sign of value and self-worth. Pretending and adjusting yourself to please other people will be pointless. You won't need to compromise your standards just to gain appreciation. When you know your self-worth, settling for less is never an option. Instead, you focus on personal growth. You change for the sake of yourself— not because others want you to change. This doesn't mean that you aren't accepting criticism. After all, you know you are not always right, but you don't let others mold you into something that fits their standards.
You are Incomparable
Comparison breeds doubt, which delays your discovery of value and self-worth. You are incomparable. Sure, sometimes comparison helps as a form of motivation to be the best. But the strongest motivation you need comes from within, not from other sources. Comparison often leads to unhappiness when in fact, we have so much to be grateful for. Realizing you are incomparable is a sure win because being you is one thing you're better at than other people. Knowing your worth, there is no need for constant reassurance and the need to prove yourself to anyone. There's never a point considering that there's always someone better. Hence shift your perspective inwards. At the end of the day, you remain true to yourself. You've stopped comparing yourself to others, and you don't concede to societal standards.
Clear Values are in Place
What you believe in is important in the way you live and work. Clear values are deal breakers as they help you with every decision, more importantly in realizing your self-worth. With clear values in place, you know your boundaries. You know what you deserve and what you don't deserve, and you dare to speak out when necessary. No external validation to prove your value; instead, an internal compass of right and wrong.
You Can Let Things Go
High self-worth is how you see yourself and how you take care of your peace and joy. People with low self-worth are firmly attaching their worth to experiences, rewards, and people. And when those leave, feelings of worthiness diminish. People with high self-worth don't need to hold on to anything since they have everything they need; there's no need to force things or people to stay. Your value and self-worth are entirely up to you. You are worthy because you believe it. You trust that you are enough that letting things go will be effortless.
Life can be too unpredictable, taking you on a journey of a lifetime through its valleys and mountains. Nevertheless, life is very precious. Had it not been so, none would make efforts to cling on to it as long as possible. Life and existence have always been intertwined; without the latter, life cannot happen. However, existence is sometimes challenging. Many do not have the fortune to get a good childhood, education, and access to food and shelter. These people find their existence difficult and life harsh. Just like how life and existence are connected, another element linked to life is hope. Hope is what most people cling to when they find themselves in the darkness that is slowly eating their lives. Hope is what makes us want to survive and thrive in this world, which is an important aspect for anyone and everyone.
The world these days isn't as glittery and glamorous. Society now is ridden with unforeseen evils, which makes living more difficult. And for those whose existence is constantly challenged, they cling to hope more since it is the only way of survival.
It's natural to get lost along the way, considering that life tends to be tougher the longer you live on earth. Making decisions is never easy, and making wrong decisions can lead you astray. The wrong decisions don't mean that there is no going back, instead think of it as a detour. Always remember that one thing is constant in our life, and that is change. You cannot avoid making wrong decisions nor unexpected events in your life. However, you can control how you choose to respond to them. You have the power to activate positive change in your life for the better. Making life changes is hard, but it's even harder when it's a big one. Despite that terrifying statement, you must get past the fear and move forward with the things you want to do. Thus, here are some helpful reminders to pocket.
Anything Worth Having Comes with Risk and Fear
We grow up thinking that fear is always a bad thing. It makes us weak, sometimes insecure. But, have you ever thought that maybe what you know of fear may be wrong? Rather than seeing it as something inherently negative, maybe it's time to see it as a natural part of humanity. Most use it to stop them from taking risks to avoid bad results. However, some learn to harness fear and use it to their advantage. W. Veronica Lisare changed her perspective about fear and learned not only to conquer but also to use it. She learned that anything she has now is a result of facing risks and fears. And now, she uses her voice to help others with this ordeal.
So, remember that risks and fear are always part of success. You are capable of taking risks, face fears, and still succeed in the end.
The Worst-Case Scenario Isn't All That Bad
Many successful people have learned an important lesson: you can choose to be at peace or choose to be anxious. If you choose the latter, you'll never know what is on the other side of fear. Being anxious is a result of overthinking the worst-case scenario, which can strike fear within. You are probably in limbo right now, and choosing to be anxious about the future will get you nowhere. Stop thinking of the worst-case scenario because it isn't always all that bad.
Security Blankets Keep You from Growing
We all have security blankets, but they aren't literally blankets. Well, not anymore, that is. Security blankets may be comfy and make us feel safe and secure, but it's stopping you from growing. Security blankets will keep you safely tucked in your comfort zone instead of facing fear and risk. To make significant life changes, you need to decide whether you want to stay put in place or face your fears. There is no in-between. Overcoming Fear on W. Veronica's book, The Other Side of Fear, declares that you must move through your own challenges to the other side of everything. Only this way will you be more brave, more mature, and more who you should be.
Have the Courage to Trust Yourself
You can make all sorts of excuses just to get away from doing anything or making important decisions. However, avoidance just portrays you as someone who doesn't trust yourself to do the right thing. It's natural to have little confidence when placed in a new situation or place. Don't be too worried. Give yourself more credit than that. You are capable of doing anything and everything if you put your mind to it. You've dealt with things much harder than this, right? And look at yourself now; you're fine and thriving. So, have courage, trust yourself, and you'll figure out the rest.