Do you wrestle with how to overcome fear? Do your fears cause you shame? Whatever the source of anxiety, when you let it overpower you, it becomes toxic. And when fear becomes unhealthy, you can become paralyzed by all the what-ifs.
Fear is a serious subject.
Some fears are rooted in previous experiences. You were threatened, rejected, or hurt. Maybe you have experienced terrifying panic, heart-breaking disappointment, or mortifying embarrassment. And you fear it will happen again.
Other fears exist because you have a solid ability to imagine the worst—fears of an uncertain future, worries of failure, or fears of loss fall in this category.
For most of humanity, when one first experiences fear, one thinks, “I can handle it. I can man-up, or I can woman-up. I can carry this.” After a while, fear becomes a weight that seems too heavy to bear, so fear paralyzes.
Paul wrote in 2 Timothy 1:7 to a young pastor living in fear that God has not given humanity a spirit of fear and timidity but power, love, and self-discipline. The Lord has given you several fundamental doctrines to combat your worries. These doctrines become weapons in your arsenal to fight against anxiety and the author of fear—even Satan. These essential doctrines are faith, hope, and charity.
So, how can you be set free from the prison cell of fear? Read on and see the three outlined things you can do to overcome fear.
1. Faith. Faith in Jesus Christ is the very first principle of the three outlined things in the gospel. Faith is power; faith is strong. The more considerable the measure of obedience to God’s laws, the bigger the endowment of faith will be. You can also learn from the Apostle Paul that faith comes by hearing the word of God (see Romans 10:17). Therefore, if you want to increase your faith, you must read the scriptures, study its teachings, and heed the control of the Holy Spirit in your lives. Faith is also a decision. If you want to be immersed and saturated in faith, you must choose to believe and exercise faith. W. Veronica Lisare, in her Spiritual journey through faith and courage will move its readers as they feel her abuse, crippling fear, and low self-esteem to knowing the ultimate love of God.
2. Hope. Hope is believing in God’s promises to humanity and expecting the Lord to deliver to everyone. Your hope is rooted in the Savior and the Atonement. Hope is not knowledge but the abiding trust that the Lord will fulfill His promise to all. It is the confidence that if you live according to God’s laws and His words, you will receive desired blessings in the future. It is believing and expecting that your prayers will and answered. It is manifest in optimism, confidence, enthusiasm, and patient perseverance.
Further, despair, or a lack of hope, drains from everyone that is joyful and vibrant and leaves behind the empty remains of what life meant to be. Pain kills ambition, advances sickness, pollutes the soul, and deadens the heart. On the other hand, hope breeds faith, optimism, confidence, trust, and happiness. If you have the Holy Ghost with you, you will have hope, expect the Lord to bless you; you will have confidence in His promises to all. Be a person of hope by trusting in God and relying on that His promises are true. Hope is a gift of the Spirit, and as you pray for this gift, your load will be lifted. In return, you will bless and inspire others.
3. Charity (Love). The final weapon in the arsenal is love or charity. Ultimately the greatest of the three principles. Consider that your fears can cause you to become preoccupied with your issues to the point that you become sightless of the needs of those around you. Fear can disconnect you from the Lord’s Spirit and can separate you from other people. If you love God and love your neighbors, you are promised that you will overcome your fears.
Moreover, when you put others’ needs before your own and serve and bless those around you, your problems and fears seem to be put into proper perspective.
Faith, hope, and charity (love)—these three great pillars of the gospel are the great antidote to doubt, confusion, and fear. As you deepen your commitment to these practices and principles, you will feel the Lord’s Spirit in your life and begin to feel your load lighten. Your life will become much happier as you seek to lift the spirits of those around you.
As they say, peace of mind is not the absence of conflict from life but the ability to cope with it.
Humankind currently lives in a society where the noise of their thoughts and their anxieties tend to consume them daily. Inner peace can be challenging to achieve in such a fast-paced world. People continually await the next thing in their lives, and that can be one of the aspects that disrupt their inner calm (fear of the unknown). Even if you are one of the biggest movie stars in the world, fear can still be a threat. This article will share how to find inner peace using six (6) proven ways.
Defining Inner Peace
Inner peace refers to the state of how calm you feel within yourself. The world around you could be chaotic and stress-inducing, but if you feel relaxed, you might be experiencing inner peace. It is an achievable state of mind that has more to do with your mind than what is happening in your life daily.
Achieving Inner Peace
When attaining inner peace, the first step is coming with a good attitude. Being too skeptical or cynical will bar you from achieving this calm state of mind.
It would help to have that open mind before you can have inner peace. Here are the six (6) ways to get there.
1. Self-Love. Practice It. Generally, the world becomes more peaceful if you love yourself. One aspect that disrupts our inner peace is the constant war we have within ourselves. By practicing self-love, you would be melding inner peace in your life. You can proactively practice this by doing things that lift your spirit and make you happy. Life experiences and lessons on My Journey Into Perfect Love is a perfect book on achieving self-love. W. Veronica Lisare (author) shared her discovery of courage, joy, hope, freedom, and fulfillment as she embraced her authentic identity as a daughter of the King of kings.
2. Helm Clear From All The Negativity. The most basic yet can be the challenging thing to do to have inner peace in one's life. Of course, nobody in their calm mind would desire negativity. However, sometimes it is in one's nature to dwell on negativity rather than positivity. Deciding on negativity in your life (thoughts or habits) will derange your peace. Negativity is the fastest way to destroy the inner peace you presently have. It is the easiest thing to dwell on negativity.
3. Communicate With Respect. You can find that inner peace when you regularly communicate respectfully with others. There is little room for misinterpretation when you tend to speak assertively but positively. Another thing is not allowing people to walk over you by being a pushover. However, cut out offensive and hurtful language from your routine and save yourself the drama caused by saying the wrong things.
4. Accept Things As They Are. Your past mistakes are not a reflection of you but a past you did not know any better. Forgiveness is a good starting point if you need to find inner peace within yourself. In the modern world, people are not very forgiving. Thus, you will need to rise above and accept that people will make mistakes in life. Everyone does! You need to be a tough cookie who can conquer the chaos in the world around you. In the end, what you can control are your actions and everything else you will need to learn to accept.
5. Laugh A Lot! You can not expect peace from a place where you take your life too seriously. Life is challenging enough, and the best thing you can do for yourself is to find the beauty in your life. It is okay to laugh, even at the silliest of things. Laughing proves to be the best medicine for struggle. Contact your friends and arrange a meetup. Watch a funny movie on Netflix. Have a wine night with your friends. You have to find humor in even the most mundane things. Inner peace is achieved from a place you never expect to, and sometimes, that is from a place of humor and laughter.
6. Enjoy The Peace Of God Daily. As humanity continues to live under all the trying circumstances, one can enjoy God's peace anytime. Throughout the day, anxious thoughts may come to you, but you have the key! You can turn your heart to Him and pray, call on His name, sing, or talk to Him. God becomes your true inner peace and rests through your fellowship with Him, the much-needed antidote to your easily troubled soul.
Finally, these are just some ways to help you gain inner peace. Creating inner peace may be tricky, especially if it does not come naturally to you. In a world where everyone is pensive with everything, you no longer have time for yourselves. However, inner peace is still possible. If you choose to have awareness and change certain aspects of your unhealthy habits and lifestyle, you have more room for peace in your lives.
Asking for help or reaching out in a time of need does not come easily to those who have experienced trauma. Accepting a compliment (as simple as that) may be painfully hard. But overcoming these fears and hesitations is crucial on the road to living a complete and balanced life.
Do you ever sense like you need a family or friend's support? But then stop yourself from reaching out?
Generally, healthy relationships matter. Deep connections are essential to being a healthy human being. For trauma survivors—or those experiencing or have experienced mood disorders (which is also trauma) or postpartum depression —the act of deepening relationships can be tricky.
On the other hand, relationship trauma results from abusive behavior between intimate spouses or partners. The trauma can stem from physical, emotional, or sexual abuse endured during the relationship and produce long-lasting psychological and physical effects.
Defining Relationship Trauma
Post-traumatic relationship syndrome is a proposed problem that would fit under the umbrella of post-traumatic stress disorder, a.k.a. PTSD. The concept of relationship trauma emerged as studies show that after the end of abusive relationships, individuals are found with symptoms similar to those observed in PTSD. A variation between avoidance and intrusion characterizes PTSD.
There is still so much to learn about the effects of relationship trauma. However, what is known is that relationship trauma differs from PTSD in the individual's ability to avoid trauma-related triggers or stimuli.
This article may open your eyes to what might keep you from intensifying your relationships and how to go about it. Primarily, take time to answer these questions below:
If these questions feel true and doubts or voices creep up, here are tips to help you move forward into deeper or closer relationships. Read on.
3 Tips To Move Forward
Tip #1. Know that having healthy relationships can fix old emotional wounds. Healthy relationships can heal old attachment wounds. Remember Kelly Clarkson's song, Piece by Piece? That is a heartwarming and current example. If you grew up not being nurtured or without secure attachment, it can develop into what you expect in your relationships or others as you journey through life. As one spoke, healthy relationships can be therapeutic in loving a trauma survivor. A Heartwarming and inspiring memoir on W. Veronica Lisare's book is a must-read. The author's testimony and the spiritual tools she learned along the journey will inspire all who read it to move through their challenges to God's perfect love and the other side of fear.
Tip #2. Consider the unrealistic levels you are holding yourself to. Would you expect a friend or a child to be as self-sufficient as you desire from yourself? Yes, you must own up and be accountable and, at the same time, responsible. However, it would help if you also recognized that you are human. Bring the compassion to yourself as you have for those you love.
Tip #3. Allow yourself to see the extent of your current relationships. Often, trauma survivors are givers who expect and accept nothing in return. It might be tough to know the depth of the love, support, and compassion those close to you can (and want to) provide. Try to see your relationships objectively and consider this potential.
Ending an abusive relationship is just one way to heal from an unhealthy situation.
Relationship trauma can include feelings of rage and anger toward the abusive partner. In the aftermath, a person may experience distressing thoughts or feelings, cognitive difficulties, and re-experiencing trauma. Some studies even suggest lingering psychological, physiological, and relational challenges.
Further, relationship trauma does not develop overnight, so it is vital to remember that healing may take some time. Do not forget that you deserve support, compassion, and deep relationships. Asking for help can be challenging for everyone. It can be complicated for those who have survived trauma. Through therapy, it is possible to realize that you deserve deep relationships as you grow and evolve through life. May it be in the good times and the hard times.